So, yall have been talking for a while. You think she’s funny, smart, and cute. However, you have no idea what she thinks about you. That’s definitely a problem. Thankfully, you’ve come to the right place.
The best things come in threes, like the triple eye contact and the triple threat. This one isn’t an exception. To tell if a girl likes you, execute the Triple Ts: Tells, Tests, and Truth.
To start it off, girls have several tells that indicate that they like you. Each girl is different but these tells are pretty common. There might be a couple specific ones that are only to one girl that isn’t found in another but generally speaking, identifying these tells means she likes you and you are able to move on to the tests.
- Playing with her hair
- Answers your texts reasonably quickly and good responses
- Friends of hers talking to you/giving you attention
- Makes plans with you and wants you to come to certain events with her
- Starts up conversations
- Checks in with you and how you’re doing throughout the day
- Gives you her undivided attention
- Laughs at your dumb jokes
- She’s comfortable with physical contact
Tells, while they are a step in the right direction, aren’t able to reveal the whole story. Even if she checks all the boxes, you can’t be 100% certain. Therefore, move onto the test section.
If you aren’t convinced of the tells yet, here are some anti-tells. Basically, if this happens to you, she is most likely not into you homie.
- Calls you bro (unless you live in Alabama, in which this is a tell)
- One worded texts and stale replies
- Not very fast at texting back (like a day or more)
- Gives excuses on why they couldn’t do something
- Often leaves you on read
- Emphasizes the word “friend” when talking to you
Woo! Congratulations on making it this far. Now, these tests basically confirm whether she likes you or if she’s just being friendly.
The Friend Test
This one is pretty straight forward. You can tell if she likes you based on how she treats you versus your friends. If she treats you the same way, she doesn’t like you. It just basically means, shes super friendly. Nothing wrong with that, shes just not into you.
However, on the other hand, if your friends are like “ohhh nah she doesn’t reply quickly” yet you just got a text from her. That means she treats you different and you’re special. While my example was a big difference, just slight changes as in, her laughing at your jokes and not your friends can signify that you passed the test. That being said, don’t over think it. Don’t be desperate to pass the test because you realllly want her to like you.
The Other Friend Test
This one is not pretty straight forward. This will require you to be super attentive to how she reacts and notice slight changes in her answer that will let you know how she feels.
For this test, ask if she wants to go out somewhere simple, like boba or a quick bite. Then, afterwards (not in the same conversation), ask her if you can bring another friend that is a girl. Now, it is critical you notice how she responds.
You pass the test if
- She does not smile and acts cold about it
- She says “Oh I thought we were going alone”
- Takes a while for her to respond
- Other actions such as a puzzled look. Use your discretion
As long as she shows that she DOESN’T want that other friend to come, you pass the test. It shows that she values your time together and it being alone makes it all the better. It shows that she wants to go on dates with you.
If shes like “Oh yeah that’s awesome! She’s super cool” and seems pumped, then that means you did not pass the test. However, use this at your own discretion. If she doesn’t hesitate to say that and she’s smiling, then yeah you didn’t pass. However, if it takes her a while to say that, you passed. This is why it is so important to do this test face to face. You can see her reaction that can’t be seen through text or through a call.
Warning. This is what I like to call a ticking time bomb. If you pass the test, do not bring the girl. Also, ask her out as soon as possible because you don’t want the thought of the other girl in her mind for too long. It’ll lurk in there and you ruined your own chances.
The truth can hurt. Unfortunately, if you don’t pass both tests and/or there are no tells, she doesn’t like you. Don’t let that stop you though. If you really like her, ask her out and see what happens. People’s emotions can change! Who knows? She might take a chance and really like the date.
If you passed the tests, it’s party time. Time to crack a cold one with the boys. She likes you! I wish you the best of luck with whatever happens with you and your girl. Ask her out and enjoy life man, you’re one of the lucky ones.
Side Note, while I realize you are wanting to know if she likes you and this has been on your mind for a while, there are traps you should know about. One is asking her friends. Girls are a hive mind and unless you really trust a specific friend, they will know everything you tell them. There are unexpected consequences by asking her friends. Just a warning.